How to Deal With Your Unavoidable Holiday Family Dinners

Do you hear those jingle bells? The holidays are coming.

And you know what that means? Cringy holiday family dinners.

Random family members you haven’t seen in years come knocking at your door. Sometimes, you’re dragged to meet family you purposely avoid.

Eventually, you have to face the irritable questions:

“What do you do for a living?” (so they can judge you and offer unwanted advice)

“Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?”

“When are you going to have kids?”

Feeling the anxiety already? Here’s how to deal with your unavoidable holiday family dinners:

1. Be Honest

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Would you rather spend your life true to yourself or hide behind a fake persona?

Speak your truth. Don’t be afraid if you anger Aunt Tilda and her yippy, over-fluffed Pomeranian.

You can’t make everyone happy, not even your family. It’s their problem they can’t handle your genuine lifestyle and opinions, not yours.

2. Be Kind, But Take No Sh*t

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Say what needs to be said with a smile.

You don’t have to put up with your family’s snarky comments about your weight, your sexuality, or a lack of a significant other in your life.

Come up with a smart, honest remark, move on, and eat your mashed potatoes with satisfaction.

3. Find the Awesome Folks

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Surround yourself with family members who light you up (if any). Maybe you finally have a chance to meet a favorite cousin or an uncle you haven’t seen for a while.

You don’t have to spend so much time with the Negative Nancies in your group (bump that).

The holidays are meant to be filled with joy, not bullsh*t.

4. Don’t Go

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If all else, stay inside your place. Make an excuse you can’t make it or straight up tell your family you’re done feeling uncomfortable around them.

Don’t force yourself into a situation you don’t want to be. You have every right to enjoy the holidays your way!

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