Why I Don’t Follow Average Advice

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“You can make $40,000 a year!”

I couldn’t afford all the courses leading to the startup. To make ends meet, I was dipping into bank accounts I shouldn’t be. I dropped the whole plan altogether.

Lesson learned: Focus on one thing. For me, it’s writing.

I didn’t mind the $40,000 advice at the time. Now I look back, is the annual salary all I’m capable of making my entire life? Why not six figures, seven figures? What happened to dreaming big?

How come gaining a mediocre salary from a displeasing job is more acceptable than making 10x more from a non-traditional one you absolutely love?


There were many times I’ve received average advice.

A relative told me not to go too deep into the Hollywood industry (when I was on the acting route) because white people would hold me back.

Sure, problematic diversity issues do occur in Hollywood. It didn’t stop Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith, Ava DuVernay, and Ryan Coogler from breaking into the industry.

What matters the most is the persistence to step into the business and stay there.

People in the past have told me I wouldn’t go far with my theater degree, Los Angeles was too far for me, I couldn’t lose weight, and I wouldn’t make it into a decent college based on my SAT/ACT test scores.

You can read more on the last one here:

All the advice my ears had the unfortunate experience taking in were pure crap. I was supposed to do what others thought was best for me.

Average advice always comes from average people who have never taken the journey you’re taking. This is why I don’t follow average advice. I only listen to those who have made it.

I follow the people who have made it in Hollywood, business, writing, in life in general. They made their dreams come true, despite the setbacks.

I may not follow their exact steps, but it’s better than paying attention to someone who has never achieved my dream goals.

For example, I admire Elon Musk’s productivity, but you don’t see me working 100+ hours a week. I like sleeping.

Average advice leads to average action. Average action leads to average results.

Life is more than average. I prefer the extraordinary.

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